Process versus Time ⏱
This shot was taken today when I was doing another round of baking😊Somehow I love how these little cute pointy fellas were formed in my stand mixer.. Looking at them, I was reminded when I first learnt how to bake. One of the common questions I would often asked the pastry chef: "How long do we need to bake these?
"Its not about the time. You have to look at your cake as different ovens work differently" .
Back then i was struggling with the answer. I was expecting a more concise answer. I then realised it's about the process rather than the time-factor. .
In life, not every single thing is measured by time but by the process as we journeyed through. That's where all the learning and experience are accumulated. Embrace the learning process - choose to become a better version of yourself as you journey through ♥️
We just completed our Personal Image Empowerment Programme that ran from 21 to 22 November 2018. Participants not only learned skills to boost their confidence but also learned the importance of personal image, body language, and interpersonal skills to help them get ahead in the workforce. #cibfmbrunei#keeplearning#selfdevelopment
I'm not in their League. ⠀
I was playfully walking through a mall in Singapore when I came across the DC store. ⠀
I was giddy when I saw these life-sized models of the movie versions of some of my favourite heroes! ⠀
Then something strange happened as I went to take the selfie with them. ⠀
I felt like a big fake. ⠀
Here I was in front of glorified mannequins and I felt like the fake one. ⠀
I traced the source and it was the little boy in me wanting to pretend that I was one of them, being met by the wounded part of me that has so often felt like he doesn't belong. ⠀
Sure, I'm the same size as these super heroic figures but I'm not one of THEM. ⠀
It might sound silly to feel badly about not meeting the entry level standards of a fictional group of superbeings, but it was more the shame of how much I wanted to... how much I want to. ⠀
Brene Brown says that for many it's not a feeling of not being good enough, but more a feeling of not being extraordinary enough that haunts them. I can so relate to that. ⠀
I think I'm outstanding! ⠀
...but not enough. ⠀
I have to face this all the time, the feeling that I don't fit in. ⠀
Some of this is born of a childhood where I went to 10 schools before highschool, and then 3 highschools and 3 universities. ⠀
Now I see it in my desire to connect with people like those I interview on my podcast. ⠀
I want to be part of that group but I so often feel like I don't. ⠀
The first Ultimate Frisbee team I captained was called the "Just Disc League" (I was so proud of that name!) and it was filled with incredible people... I was the captain but I felt like I was only on the team because I formed it. ⠀
That I wouldn't have received an invitation otherwise. ⠀
People often praise me as a community builder but it's mostly all come from the space of feeling like if I don't create the experiences I want, they won't happen, or if they do, I'll be on the outside of them. ⠀
I generally feel well liked wherever I go so it's interesting to see these feelings still come up, but they do. ⠀
When they do, all I can do I breathe and settle into the knowing that I'm not alone in this.